Oh so your mate is the benchmark for how a human reacts to a tragedy then. Was your mate in a massacre too holding friends while they died from gunshot wounds?
Newsflash, people berieve in different ways.
Your friend has zero relevence to Ade. Its like saying "that girl coped with being raped, so every other girl should should just get over it"
Bit sick that to be honest mate
Now you're trolling Sammy.
And he does have zero relevance to Ade.. mainly because he's in a different league to that guy.
Ade wasn't in a "massacre" (dramatisastion - the siege lasted for at least 30 minutes.The bus driver, Mário Adjoua, was killed, cutting off all possible means of escape. The passengers hid beneath the seats. A security team of around 10 men in two cars travelling with the team returned the attackers' fire).Traumatic - yes, massacre - no.
My mate also doesn't live in a mansion, have a fantastic job, work a couple of hours each day, drive around in Bentleys, post instagrams all the time showing off stuff - including pics which are controversial to the teams fans he plays for blah blah blah.
In this particular instance there's a comparison between a moment of trauma to a lifetime of hardship - who's suffered more? who's stepped up? It's not me that looking to polarise this either.... it's Ade deflecting and blaming all the time. That's how some folks are... excusists - glass half empty, blaming others and and other things rather than stepping up, which was really what I was trying to get at.
Eventually the excuses wear thin, especially taking into context the privileged position.
Man, if the guy turned up and put a shift in, didn't post controversial shit, do controversial shit on the pitch - he'd be a frickin hero with his story.
Yeah people berieve in different ways, but also people handle a lot of situations differently. Some handle adversity with dignity. Some look for excuses.
On a side note I don't think any girl really copes with being raped... they live with it and that experience forms and becomes a part of their personality - sometimes to drastic effects.
I've dated a girl that had an abusive dad and can only surmise it might have a similar effect. She was smoking hot, but boy did she have issues...like, public shows of affection were a huge step for her.